The first step of the process is an assessment meeting between the play therapist and the child’s parents to determine whether play therapy is the correct intervention. It is advisable to have both parents present, if possible. In the case of separation, individual meetings can be arranged. The child will not be present at this meeting.
The play therapist will gather information about your child and will listen to your concerns. She will ask for information about the child’s history, including developmental milestones, medical history, family background, and any previous therapy or interventions. She will enquire about the child’s current situation, including school performance, social interactions, and family dynamics.
Then, based on the information gathered, both the parents and the therapist will decide whether to proceed with therapy sessions for the child.
One parent will accompany the child to their first session (depending on age). The therapist will read a short story to the child based on the information the parents have provided. When the story is over the parent will be asked to leave and the therapist will show the child around the playroom.
If a child is anxious about their parent leaving the room, they may remain for the session. They are asked to observe and not get involved in the play unless the child asks them to.
Sessions with the child take place for 50 minutes weekly on the same day and time. A commitment of 12 weeks is required at sign up. However, research shows that it takes an average of 20 weeks to resolve issues. For children who are presenting with more complex issues, therapy will have to continue over a longer period of time.
Firstly, the therapist creates a non-judgemental environment for the child in which they feel safe, seen and understood. The relationship between the therapist and the child is a crucial part of the healing process. It can take 6-8 weeks for this relationship to develop.
The play therapist uses a unique set of qualities and skills to effectively support the child’s therapeutic process. She may guide the child to play with specific toys or engage in specific activities that are designed to address a particular issue (Directive play) or she may allow the child to choose what they play with (Non-directive play).
During the play, the therapist will observe how the child interacts with the toys, their behaviour and the patterns of their play. She will interpret the play and the nonverbal cues to understand underlying feelings that the child may be unable to express verbally.
Children, like adults, have the right to privacy. It is essential for the therapeutic process to be effective. Confidentiality helps in building a trusting relationship between the therapist and the child. They are more likely to open up and express their true feelings and thoughts without fear of judgement or consequences. General progress and themes of play are shared with parents at review sessions rather than specific details.
It is not recommended that the child is questioned by family members about their sessions. They may choose to reveal as much or as little as they wish.
The only exception to this is when the therapist may be concerned that the child is in danger of harming themselves or others or if there is suspected abuse or neglect. In this instance, the authorities will have to be informed.
Parents have a very important role to play in the process. You must ensure that your child attends therapy consistently and is on time. It will be necessary to create a supportive and understanding home environment where your child feels safe and understood. The therapist may suggest strategies or activities to reinforce therapeutic progress at home. Please try to engage with these.
Review sessions take place with parents every 6-8 weeks. Please observe any changes in your child’s behaviour and communicate this to the therapist. In some instances, a child’s needs may increase or their behaviour may get worse as they begin therapy. This is a normal part of the process.
Please don’t tell your child that they have to ‘be good’ or ‘well mannered’ when they come to therapy. Your child must feel free to express all of their feelings in the playroom.
Spend quality time engaging in playful activities with your child. This will strengthen your bond and provide an opportunity for your child to express themselves.
Your child needs a balanced routine that includes adequate sleep, nutritious food, physical activity, and relaxation. Avoid screen time where possible.